At this time, how do you evaluate yourself and others? What benchmarks do you use for defining personal success or failure?

Make a list of qualities of being that you consider high ideals, and that you would most like to cultivate in yourself. Now list ego attributes that hold you back, and that you would like to minimize in your life. Express gratitude for the awareness of the difference between divine qualities and ego attributes.

Create an appropriate affirmation, self-talk, or prayer about your divine self, using language that is aligned with your belief system. For example, "Every day in every way, my personality is becoming more and more aligned with my higher self."

Jamal Rahman in Sacred Laughter of the Sufis