In Forgiveness, the Passionate Journey, Flora Slosson Wuellner provides useful insight on practicing compassion:
"The best reparation we can offer is to become compassionate toward those who mistreat us the way we mistreated others, releasing them from resentment. For example, the only true reparation I could make to my old friend whom I had neglected was to become more understanding of anybody who neglected me. Instead of taking offense at a friend who had forgotten or who was too busy to call or write me, I would try to remember how often I too had become distracted and overwhelmed by daily chores and neglected others. Then I would try to release that friend from the prison of my offendedness. I believe my old friend's beautiful spirit touched mine with this guidance. I remember the relief I felt when I realized I could do something real and valuable ‘in remembrance’ of her."
Practice following Wuellner’s advice. When you notice not feeling comfortable with how you’ve acted toward someone else, take a moment to consider how you can be understanding with yourself in this situation. Then commit to hold that same sort of understanding in your heart and mind the next time you’re the recipient of the same kind of behavior you exhibited.
— Habib Todd Boerger, Flora Slosson Wuellner in Forgiveness, the Passionate Journey by Flora Slosson Wuellner