The energy of pride, at the neurotic level, looks like narcissistic self-absorption. The narcissist applies no limits or self-discipline, seeing himself as special, wallowing in the admiration of others, in ostentation, and in frivolous pursuits. Beneath the facade of pride lurks a sense of underlying shame or defeat. When transformed, this same energy transforms these fears into equanimity. This security allows an openness, an expansive feeling of plentitude, that encourages extending oneself generously to others, whether physically, emotionally, or spiritually.
— Tara Bennett-Goleman, Emotional Alchemy