Become aware of your choice of words and your tone of voice. Without compromising the content of your speech, how can you be more kind and courteous?

Are you aware of doing any act of service that is actually not helpful to the recipient? If so, what changes can you make?

In what ways can you be more gracious and generous with family, friends, colleagues, strangers, and people who annoy you?

Make a commitment to engage daily in beautiful deeds no matter how small: a smile, a greeting, small courtesies, a helping hand, a quiet prayer, and a blessing for the other.

Remember to make time to nurture and nourish yourself. Take rest, engage in silence, pray, and practice owning your own sorrows with kindness and mercy for yourself. This is not only a service to you, it increases your capacity to help others.

Jamal Rahman in Sacred Laughter of the Sufis