Ordinarily when we are angry . . . the anger and our ego-centered clinging are mixed together. "When angry, investigate the clinging," Tsoknyi Rinpoche advises. "The feeling itself is no problem — it's the clinging that's a problem. If we retain the rigid selfishness, then we will do something that hurts others. When angry, the selfishness, the ego-clinging, needs to be released. What we need is to do away with the ego: energy comes, ego gone." While that may sound easy, he adds, the danger here is in thinking we know how to "dissolve ego" when we are actually reinforcing a subtle sense of ego through clinging.

Tara Bennett-Goleman, Tsoknyi Rinpoche, Emotional Alchemy by Tara Bennett-Goleman