To combat the natural tendency to question God's care and compassion when things go wrong, try to cultivate a sense of gratitude "no matter what." As Job was able to say, even when his life was falling apart, "Should we accept only good from God and not accept evil?" (Job 2:10). If, in moments of pain and confusion, I am able to say, "Thank you for this chance to grow, thank you for the gifts you have already given me to deal with this sorrow," the burden usually shifts and I am able to carry it with more grace.
— Katheen Schmitt Elias in Out of Darkness Into Light by Jamal Rahman, Kathleen Schmitt Elias, Ann Holmes Redding