Weaving the Shadow: A Lenten Reflection by Patricia Adams Farmer: The shadow — this mysterious, disturbing, and often confounding part of us — needs not be feared like a vampire. But it does need tending! It often cries for attention in regretful ways: an outburst of irrational anger, unbidden jealousies, greedy hoarding, selfish decisions, or a hurtful remark you never meant to say.